YOU

What is this thing that we as women constantly do to ourselves, we try to give the illusion that everything is under control, we try to have the perfect body, the perfect hair, the best skin...we go to these "innocent gathers" with our girlfriends and all the while we are constantly trying to compete, most of the time we don't even realize we are doing it I don't think, we show up to a friends house wearing the latest and greatest talking about whats new and all the while making it sound like the best possible situation that we could ever be in at the best possible time with the best possible people...when in actuality we find ourselves up at night when we are all alone, when our husbands are sleeping, when we are finally quiet, wanting what some else has, asking God why we haven't accomlpished this yet or telling ourselves that tomorrow we will finally start that diet we have been putting off because we want to be as thin as so and so.

C'mon Ladies lets GET REAL HERE!  Maybe I am the only one who feels this way or has this constant need to want to be better then the next lady, but when I see day after day after day after day the same thing in other women it has me thinking I can't be the only one who feels this way.  The constant need for approval, the woman who is always trying to lose weight, have the perfect body, the woman who feels that if she can just be a size smaller or weigh a 115 pounds then life will be better and all her cares will wash away. 

That is simply not the case...because don't you see that if you don't want that you will always want something else, nothing will ever satisfy, no perfect weight or size 2 of jeans will make you suddenly perfect.  I say all this because I know my own struggles and I can see the same pain I've seen in myself in other women around me.  The only thing I can say is Thank God for Jesus....It is hard enough with him to cope with these thoughts I could not imagine it without, only to say I would think it would be almost unbearable.

I am hoping that my cander will help women going through something similar to find strength in knowing they aren't alone, that maybe if I show others my imperfections they will not feel so helpless.  I wish when I was 18 and even now someone would have sat me down and said..."you are the perfect you, you are beautiful, you can always strive for a goal but just know it's not the end-all-be-all if you fail, because your gonna fail, your gonna fall down, your not always going to achieve your dreams and your not always going to like who you are....but just know after all that..once your life seems to be so annoying and there is no door you see to escape or even a window for that matter...that you are still beautiful and no one, I mean no one can ever replace you...you are irreplaceable". 

Just know that if you don't like your life or yourself right now for that matter, then all you have to do it ask for strength to change and once you start to do that you will gradually notice that you really do have a lot to offer and you can wake up each day and look yourself in the mirror and say "It is what it is and I am really starting to like what it is".

I bid you all a farewell and a Good day til the next time!

Warm Regards,
Candace

Chicken Burgers with Goat Cheese Salad
spring lettuce
dried cranberries
chopped green olives
greek vinegrette (or any you like)
goat cheese
ground chicken
chopped jalapenos
dill pickles
garlic powder, sea salt and pepper

Mix ground chicken, seasonings and chopped jalapenos in a bowl, form into patties and cook on stove over medium heat until cooked.  Mix remaining ingredients for salad in a large bowl and toss.  Once burgers are cooked top with pickles and anyother burger toppings you like and enjoy ;D